Handle a family estrangementWritten on March 3rd , 2019 by Raniere Silva
Around last Christmas, Anna Goldfarb’s article “The Best Way to Handle a Family Estrangement” (archive PDF avaiable) found my RSS reader. This was the same time that I was processing the wish of my parents to not spend Christmas with me in the UK.
Anna’s says in her article:
when someone else is setting those boundaries, it’s crucial to the future of your relationship that you respect them. Someone who has been cut off “may continue to send messages, cards and presents, or criticism when they know they are unwanted,” [Becca] Bland [(chief executive of Stand Alone, a UK-based charity that supports adults who are estranged from their families)] says, but “research suggests this is more harmful than helpful if the other person has asked for time and space.”
and I learnt the hard way how much this advice is gold.